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25 things dads should teach their sons

HikingDavisMenBefore the industrial revolution, it was common for men to spend much of their day in the company of their sons — either on the family farm or in the family business. In those settings, dads could teach their sons practical lessons as well as the lessons of leadership, protection, and provision expected of manhood.

Today, work, school, extracurricular activities and even church take fathers and sons in separate directions. Dads, therefore, have to be intentional about creating the opportunities to teach their sons — to model manhood, to teach industry and resourcefulness. One way to do that is to work through a list of things that fathers can teach sons. You can work through such a list in one of two ways: either

  • By setting aside a regular father/son time to take on one item at a time (one dad started this routine and calls it “Manhood Mondays”) or
  • By just taking the time to instruct your son anytime you’re about to do one of these tasks yourself. It’s not efficient, but the investment of your time can be priceless.

Whether you do it proactively, reactively or both, what matters most is taking the time to build a legacy with your son(s).

Don’t freak out by what is or isn’t on the list here. These are meant to be examples of what engagement looks like, but you can adapt this or just see it as a head-start for your own list. You’ll notice that many of the skills listed here can be bypassed by modern technology in most industrially advanced countries. Making the effort to teach these, however, will give you valuable time with your son(s) and will give you a practical opportunity to present the principles of leading, protecting and providing, all the while building confidence in their abilities as emerging men.

25 things dads should teach their sons
  1. Speak in public — there’s power in the spoken word.
  2. Read good books — leaders are readers.
  3. Play an instrument — especially because of the discipline required.
  4. Play individual, two-person, and team sports.
  5. Build a fire.
  6. Camp out — pitch the tent, cook stuff over the fire, the whole thing.
  7. Carve a turkey.
  8. Light a grill.
  9. Jump start a car.
  10. Tie a knot — such as a bowline, square knot, taut-line, and figure eight among others.
  11. Use basic tools — hammer, saw, wrench, screwdriver.
  12. Paint a room — trim and all.
  13. Handle a gun and a knife — for safety, protection, sport, and hunting.
  14. Skin an animal.
  15. Be a gentleman — open doors, stand when a woman approaches at dinner, etc.
  16. Grow stuff — and not just a Chia pet.
  17. Iron a shirt — and do laundry and other work around the house in a manly way.
  18. Manage money — keep a balanced checkbook, show generosity, and learn basic saving and investing.
  19. Shake a hand — strong shake (save the tuna for dinner) and look ’em in the eye.
  20. Give a man hug — skip the side hug, and go arms spread eagle with bold back slaps.
  21. Keep vows.
  22. Dress like a gentleman — coordinate pants, shirts, jackets, ties, belts, socks, etc. appropriately to the occasion.
  23. Tip — for example at least 15% for a waiter providing adequate service, $1 for a checked coat, $1 per bag for curbside check in at the airport, etc.
  24. Serve others — shovel walks, help with heavy loads, etc.
  25. Handle loss — sports and games in preparation for loss in work and relationships.

Taken from:  A Guide to Biblical Manhood, by Randy Stinson and Dan Dumas. Copyright © 2011 by SBTS Press, a division of The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary.  All rights reserved. Used by permission.

RandyStinsonMugDr. Randy Stinson is Senior Fellow at The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood and is Senior Vice President for Academic Administration & Provost at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary in Louisville, Kentucky. He enjoys hunting, fishing, and encourages his eight children in their pursuits. He and Danna have been married for 22 years.

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  1. amber's Gravatar amber
    October 16, 2014    

    maybe the title should be 25 things a dad should teach his kids!

    • Bill's Gravatar Bill
      February 25, 2016    

      Did not see exercise with your sons. Why not? How can a father play catch with his sons if he is in poor physical condition. Most fathers today are in terrible physical conditions unable to lead their sons from the front.

  1. 25 things dads should teach their sons - on October 9, 2014 at 10:33 pm

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