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We need more Tim Tebows

EDITOR’S NOTE: Earlier this week, Stepping Up’s Jeff Kemp was guest contributor on Fox News Opinions, standing up for the “controversial” Tim Tebow. The controversy, of course, is that he doesn’t do things the world’s way. Considering the way the culture seems to be headed, that’s probably a good thing. Jeff brings out that the world could stand to benefit from Tebow’s values. (To read the entire op-ed, go to the article Bravo Tim Tebow.

we need more tim tebowsThe Internet is abuzz with the news that Heisman Trophy-winner-turned-broadcaster Tim Tebow was allegedly dumped by former Miss Universe Olivia Culpo because he refused to break his vow to remain a virgin until marriage.

Whether or not this is true, what is indisputable is that the response to the “news,” particularly from sports media, has been disgraceful.

Rather than applauding Tebow for taking a moral stand and backing it up by his actions, the media made snarky quips to mock the former quarterback. I could list a host of mean comments thrown his way, but I’d rather not give any more attention to his detractors.

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That’s why Tebow’s public stand is so important—because it encourages others who are on the same path. And the truth is, we need more Tim Tebows.

Sexual abstinence outside of marriage isn’t always easy, but it pays dividends. For individuals who practice it, saving sex for marriage can deepen one’s relationship with God and increase trust with a future spouse. It also protects the individual from the potential negative consequences of sex outside of marriage—from STDs to unplanned pregnancies to a higher level of regret at the end of a relationship.

But it isn’t just the individual who can be hurt by promiscuity. Our nation pays a high price for sex outside of marriage.

According to Pew Research, 34 percent of children in the United States live in single parent families. That number is a whopping 67 percent for black children according to the Kids Count research from the Annie E. Casey Foundation.

Research has shown time and time again that single-parent families are more likely to be poor than are two-parent families. Children from single-parent homes are less likely to complete college, more likely to live in poverty as adults and more likely to face a teen pregnancy. And these are the lucky kids. After all, of the more than 1 million abortions that took place last year, it is estimated that 75 percent were performed on single women.

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And so we come back to Tim Tebow, a young man who has decided that he will wait until marriage to have sex, regardless of what it may cost him in broken relationships and public mocking.

He won’t be contributing to the rise of unplanned pregnancies, the spread of sexually transmitted diseases and the abortion epidemic. Instead, he will continue to live his life to please God and treat others well. That’s a good thing, right? Something worth applauding, right?

For those members of the media who have knocked him, I want to ask one question: would you prefer your daughter date a promiscuous “player” or a Tebow?

Has the excitement worn off?

This post originally appeared on Swayze is kicker/punter for the Toronto Argonauts of the Canadian Football League (CFL), who start their regular season tonight.

not normalAbout a week after I reported for training camp in Toronto this past season, I got all dressed up and went downtown for a big ceremony to celebrate our previous season.

All of my teammates, coaches, front office staff and management were decked out in the finest of suites. The venue was elegant and decorated in double blue. A photographer was on hand to catch all of the action. This was the night we had all been waiting on. We had already won the 100th Grey Cup just six months previous but tonight was the night we got our rings.

We had a full course meal. Medium rare steaks. We were able to sit back and take a little break from the grueling hours of training camp that we were in the middle of that month. They brought the lights down and showed a video of one of our captains talking about the ring, how it was designed, what it symbolized, etc. Then they brought them out on trays. They set them on our tables in front of us with our names on the outside of the box.

I can still remember this perfectly. A room full of grown men looking around at each other with childlike grins wondering what would be in the box. What design did they go with? Yellow or white gold? No telling what all was running through the minds that were in that room. I was excited. Ecstatic. I was a champion and was about to have the ring to prove it.

They then counted down for us to see the rings… 3….2….1….. boxes sprung open all around the room and guys began laughing and talking. Everyone just sat there smiling and looking at the shiny gold and sparkling diamonds. All 139 of them … this was no ordinary ring. “This ring cost someone a lot of money,” I remember thinking to myself. I slipped the ring on my finger and began taking pictures of it … taking pictures with my teammates. I couldn’t wait to show everyone the pictures and tell them about it! As quick as I could I was posting, tweeting, emailing and texting. Even facetiming (I don’t think thats a word)! I was excited! This was no ordinary day … and this was certainly no ordinary ring. I had to tell people!

Fast forward to today … I brought this same ring with me to a school the other morning where I was speaking at an FCA (Fellowship of Christian Athletes) huddle. I have done this numerous times since the night I received it. I have brought it to signings, churches, school, etc. Hundreds of people, both young and old have posed for pictures with it and tried it on, most of whom don’t even know about the CFL or the Argonauts. But it’s BIG, its SHINY and it symbolizes victory. People love it!

Over the last year, the excitement has worn off for me. I’ve seen it so many times and taken so many pictures with it that it has become normal. When I take it out of its box to show others I don’t get as excited as I did that night in Toronto last year. This ring that I was so happy and eager to show the world just a year ago has become normal to me now. I’ve gotten used to it. (I’m ready to win another one!)

Has your excitement worn off ?

I told some kids about this the other morning … if we are not careful, this is exactly what we will do with the gospel. We will take the son of God, who is far more valuable and beautiful than any ring man could make, and somehow in our twisted way of thinking and being we will make him ‘normal.’ We will hear the gospel and not respond. We will feel called to action and reason why we shouldn’t follow through. We will hear the Easter story about Jesus Christ stepping in and giving his life for ours, covering our sins with his perfect blood — reconciling us with our Holy God — then rising from the dead and defeating sin and death. We will hear all of this and not get excited.

How is that possible?

How can we hear this story and not get excited? How can we see God’s perfect love for us on the cross and not tell people? This is not just a normal story. This is not just a normal man. Lets get excited (every day). Lets tell people (all people)!

This is way better than a ring!

SwyzeWatersSwayze Waters is a Christian, family man, and athlete, in that order. He and Kendal have been married since 2011, and he’s been playing pro football since 2009. Swayze is beginning his third year as a kicker/punter with the Toronto Argonauts of the Canadian Football League, the 2012 Grey Cup champions.

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