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Men Stepping Up all over the country: what’s the next step?

Stepping Up Super Saturday

Our best estimates tell us that there were probably more than 1,000 Stepping Up™ Super Saturday events hosting more than 23,000 men on Saturday, February 2, 2013.  It’s a day that many men will cite as the day their lives changed forever, for the better.  In groups as small as four, and as large as 400-500, men met to eat, learn, watch, share and face the realities of where they stood in the journey of courageous manhood.


We saw many stories being shared on Facebook and Twitter.  Stories like these:

I attended a Stepping Up video event yesterday in Albany, Oregon. I have to say this was a wake up call and a great reminder that I need to step up to become a better leader in my household. Also a great reminder that I need to step up and gain courage to defeat the giants that have been hindering my walk with God. Going through this I definitely gained my “bearings” on what it takes to step up and become a man of God!

Just wrapped up attending the Super Saturday Stepping Up event at Highland Park Community Church in Casper, WY. Sold out event of nearly 200 men! What an awesome day!!!

While most churches are wrapping up their event, Glen Elder Friends KS is just beginning in 3 minutes! Please pray for all men who are gathered who have come from as far as 100 miles away to accept the challenge to courageous manhood!

And, there were some photos shared, too:

Men Stepping Up at the Super Saturday event

Men Stepping Up in Modesto, CA

Men Stepping Up in Alabama at the Stepping Up Super Saturday event

Men Stepping Up in Alabama

Men Stepping Up in Alaska at the Stepping Up Super Saturday event

Men Stepping Up in Alaska

God showed up in big ways across the nation.  But, as incredible as that is, the work is yet to be done.  


Pablo Picasso said, “Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone.”  So what is it from Saturday’s event that you are NOT willing to die with it being left undone?  Here are five things to help you take the NEXT RIGHT STEP:

  1. Review your Stepping Up Creed (if you went through the manual, you would have created a Stepping Up Creed to help you with your next steps).  Of those statements, which ONE is the most urgent and important?  Write down an action step that you can take with a deadline to help you be accountable.  Then, share it with at least one other friend or your small group.  Send an email saying something like, “Bob, I’m committed to taking the next step in being God’s man.  By [date] I am going to [action step].  Would you help me by asking me how I’m doing on this?”  Or, share it via email to your small group and discuss it at your next gathering.
  2. Consider either hosting or attending the Stepping Up 10 session video series.  It has some of the material from the Super Saturday one day event but it goes into each of the issues in much more depth.  You can find out more about that study on our MenSteppingUp website.
  3. Consider spending the next seven days praying about the items God brought to your mind during the event.  Commit to spending time asking God for direction, courage and initiative to take the next right step.  Some of you will need to reconcile a relationship that’s been strained or even torn.  Maybe there’s an addiction or lifestyle change that MUST take place for you to move on toward courageous manhood as God designed.  Whatever it is, don’t give the Enemy a foothold.  Ask God for strength and let at least one other man know you are praying and have him pray with you.  Then, after the week is over (you don’t have to stop praying 🙂 ), do what men do … ACT on it.  As Nike says, “Just do it.”
  4. Dennis challenged us right from the beginning of the session to pray with our wives.  Make this a priority in your lives.  If you are uncomfortable, begin by praying for your wife alone.  It’s very hard to stay upset with someone you are praying for.  Pray for her needs, issues she’s facing, ask God to help you “love her as Christ loves you” and anything else that God brings to your heart.  Then, move to praying with her.  Somedays it may only be a quick half minute prayer and other days it may be longer.  But start.  You’ll be amazed at how it will draw you closer together.  
  5. If you’re really serious about investing your time in starting or growing a men’s ministry at your church, you need to check out one of our ministry partners, Every Man Ministries.  They have a program that will guide you through each phase of building a vibrant men’s ministry in your church.  It’s a great program and Kenny Luck is one of the key leaders in the men’s ministry movement that is taking shape in our nation.  Find out more here: Every Man Ministries
  6. BONUS: Read a book or find additional studies and resources that fit the situation you are facing or the one that is most significantly imprinted on your mind.  Ask a friend to read it with you to discuss.  Here are a few places to look for books (ebooks and paper books) and other resources that might help you take the next step (remember leaders are readers):
    1. Stepping Up Website (
    2. FamilyLife
    3. Focus on the Family
    4. Raising a Modern Day Knight
    5. All Pro Dad
    6. Any books by Stu Weber, Steve Farrar  or Tim Keller (more than just men’s topics but great insight on men and their spiritual journey).
    7. If you know of others that belong here on this list, share them below for other men who come by.

Men, nothing will happen until you take the next step.  Wishing and hoping won’t work.  In fact, it’s probably what got you into this place.  You want to be a godly man but you just didn’t have the tools.  Now you do.  So, what is your NEXT RIGHT STEP?  Don’t wait another day.  Just do it.

The time has come; the time is now!

Stepping Up Super Saturday

Like any significant holiday, wedding, or vacation, anticipation occupies most of our emotional energy in the months and days leading up to the event.  We spend so much time in preparation, that sometimes the event is anticlimactic. Will the event live up to all the hopes and dreams we’ve envisioned?  That is where we are at with our Stepping Up™ Super Saturday launch.

The idea of having a special day where men would convene in venues big and small all across the nation was hatched a number of months ago.  Products were created.  Marketing was conceived and strategies employed.  Men began to catch the vision and started planning their local events.  Churches were opening up their calendars for 2.2.13 events in nearly every state in the nation.  Now, we are less than 24 hours from the kick-off of the first event somewhere on the east coast and watching them begin in waves from Maine across the heartland of the United States, moving through the southlands and rising above the mountains until they conclude in the two newest states in our union, Hawaii and Alaska.


More than 1000 venues will host a Stepping Up Super Saturday event reaching more than 22,000 men.  When the idea was conceived, not a manual had been sold, a Stepping Up Video Kit purchased, or a church room scheduled.  No marketing material had been printed, no word had been shared online. There was no word of mouth about the event.  It was just an idea, a thought.  Now it’s here.  The anticipation is nearly over and the lives of men could be changed forever, tomorrow.  It’s a great thought.

During this time, many people have shared their excitement about the need for something like this in their lives and our nation.  Surprisingly (or maybe not so surprisingly) many of those hopeful voices have come from women; wives and mothers who desperately want the men in their homes, lives, churches, and communities to become men of God!  Here are just a few of the Facebook, Twitter, and blog posts that have been shared expressing great excitement, anticipation, and hurts that need healing and hope. Prayers that this will not be an event whose anticipation exceeds it’s real impact:

Rhonda: Can’t wait to see what God is going to do. God is truly moving in this valley, to draw many men to this event. Praise God!

Donald: Recently started leading family devotions, stepped up to praying over each of my kids before they go to bed at night. I’m very excited to see what God is going to do with me in the future … I’m a babe in Christ. Birthday 04/01/12 April fools Christian …

Mary and I have a partner church in rural Kings Mtn, NC (hometown). Their youth/missions pastor began the 10-week series (Stepping Up has a 10 week video study series for small groups) with 30 young men in the fall. The deacons caught wind of what was happening and pushed for the 1-day event for Saturday (96 manuals! – 350 member church). Text just received from pastor:  “I just finished my preview of the 1 day event material. This is the BEST men’s study I have ever seen. God has used you guys greatly to organize an excellent study. I cannot wait till Saturday! Be in prayer for our event. I can see how the Lord could use this to change lives of men! Wish I could fly out to Little Rock and shake Bro. Rainey’s hand!

Patrick: Pray hard that this ignites men of our churches, communities and country. Bless all of our efforts

Laura:  Praise God! Women are praying for these men who are seeking to be godly!

FCOB Band of Brothers: We have 97 men registered, will hand out a “Tool Kit for Biblical Manhood” to all men who register, are hoping to have a band, and lunch is served. During lunch, we will have a panel of older men in our congregation to whom the men can address any questions they might have about biblical manhood.  Spread the word to the Mid-Atlantic!

Some of the guys are already planning next steps after 2-2-13 like Stephen Cornelius: [We’re doing a] Stepping Up Check Up on 3/2/13. We are going to have some breakfast and share some concerns/struggles and things we have overcome. We already have a men’s night that will supplement that as well. Praying for you guys. pray for me as well since this is my first time speaking to a group at church! Luckily the DVD will do most of the talking!

… our own Pete is starting the 10-week series with inmates here in Little Rock. Here’s what he said:  “I will be starting a series next Tuesday at the Department of Community Corrections, Little Rock with 43 inmates.”

And then another story that came to us by Dennis: “A father brought his son and two sons-in-law to one of our donor events last fall.  Two weeks ago, one son-in-law drove to eastern Arkansas for a mallard hunt and brought his 12-yr-old and 18-yr-old sons with him, along with the young man who is dating his 20 year old daughter in college.  All the way from Alabama up and back, they watched the videos, and this dad interacted with his sons.”

Excerpt from the blog, “Friends, I don’t have to tell you that we need men to step up and lead their families spiritually. We do. While there are plenty who are doing it, there are plenty who are not.”

Boy Dads blog: In between picking up the chips + dip, making the hot wings, and repositioning the big screen for optimum Superbowl viewing pleasure, we have an event we’d like to put on your radar.  Next Saturday, February 2, the day before, men will be participating in an event called Stepping Up Super Saturday.

Teach Them Diligently blog: Dennis Rainey and FamilyLife are right now challenging our husbands, sons, and fathers to answer the call to godly, courageous manhood and to host or join in on Stepping Up Super Saturday, a one-day, nationwide event held in churches and homes on Saturday, February 2.

The Salt Shaker blog: Before tackling a bowl of chips in front of the widescreen this Sunday, thousands of men will be training for a challenge bigger than the Super Bowl — the challenge of courageous manhood.

Joyful Mothering blog: Calling all Men: Dennis Rainey and FamilyLife are right now challenging our husbands, sons and fathers to answer the call to godly, courageous manhood and to host or join in on Stepping Up Super Saturday, a one-day, nationwide event held in churches and homes on Saturday, February 2.

Mom’s Mustardseed blog:  Super Sunday is on the horizon, but I am more interested in Super Saturday A Call for Courageous Men!  As I look around, I see more and more families falling apart, women stepping in to take the place of men who are afraid to step up and a society that does everything it can to belittle men.  The more I see this, the more I understand the degradation of the United States and other countries on our beautiful planet.

Another story from the field: Jeff K has a buddy who is in the NFL, an all-pro left tackle, who protected the “blind side.” He is leading 30 guys through the Stepping Up ten-week series.  While going through some crises in his life and family, he checked himself into The Bridge Ministry that serves men with life-controlling issues (drugs, anger, adultery, porn, alcohol, etc.).  Toward the end of his time there, he began facilitating Stepping Up for his peers and continues after completing his stay.  “Dude, this Stepping Up stuff is amazing.  We have one session left to do.  I’m going to give the guys a graduation certificate at the end of it.  Every guy has been moved by something on the videos.  I have learned so much about being a man.  Some things I’ve done well and others I have failed at, but all in all it has been unbelievable.  I would love to travel around doing nothing but walking men thru this series.  Stepping Up is the left tackle of manhood. It points out, explains, challenges and protects the blindside of a mans life. Awesome!”

and another: When Tray heard about the release of the Stepping Up Video Event on the radio God started a fire in him to build a formal men’s ministry.  The church has no formal men’s ministry and has only done annual men’s events. His plan is to recruit and train six other men (he has four of them now) who will start meeting regularly for prayer about men’s ministry and who will do the Stepping Up event together as part of their training.  They will officially launch their new men’s ministry in August with a large Stepping Up event at the beginning of the new football season. The church has about 4500 members. Each of their annual events has attracted at least 1000 men. From the event the men will have opportunity to join or participate in a variety of men’s ministry options including the 10-week series (they would hold several), other small group options, joining a prayer group, or mentoring other men.Tray is so grateful to know that he now has access to an organization (tools) and coach (advice) to help him fulfill his vision. Praying with him was such an honor!

Men are creative in the ways they are promoting this event as well: Ken has been appointed by the Lord to launch a men’s ministry in his church at Friendship Community Bible Church in Fort Worth, Texas.  The church has 2500 members … 800 men.  Ken and about five other men are leading the effort.  They decided to have fish fry on January 12 just before the Houston Texans football  playoff game.  They are promoting their event from the pulpit and have even created yard signs to advertise the Super Saturday Stepping Up event.  Ken told me that politicians create yard signs to sell themselves.  He wants to use yard signs to sell the men of his community on Stepping Up to live godly lives.

Can you sense the anticipation?  We can only imagine what God will do with men who decide to faithfully come before Him, confess those things that the Holy Spirit brings to his heart, share it with other men, learn tools to move forward in courageous manhood, and become a changed man from the inside out.  That could spark something this nation so desperately needs … men who reject passivity, lead courageously, accept responsibility and expect God’s greater reward.

Next we’ll begin to anticipate what those next steps in transformation might be for each man and church involved.

If you are attending a 2.2.13 Stepping Up event, please share your pictures, thoughts, praises, etc., on our Facebook page and Twitter using the hashtag #steppingup.

Defining courage



Our culture today offers a marred picture of what it means to have courage. For example, in recent times we have seen revered athletes own up to their failings such as Tiger Wood’s admission of serial adultery, Michael Phelps’ admission to recreational drug use and last week’s confession by Lance Armstrong to Oprah concerning the use of performance-enhancing drugs. It seems the dutiful on-camera confession is all that is required for a reputation to be restored and the shamed are upheld for having the courage to come clean.

It’s one thing to confess and come clean, but let’s not pretend it’s courageous to deceive the public for years (in Wood’s and Armstrong’s case) and only come clean when the evidence is stacked against you. Even Oprah said of her interview, that Armstrong still seemed to be playing semantics, not wanting to fully admit his wrongs, still skirting the truth. We know that it takes a real man, a really courageous person, to admit when they’ve done wrong by others and change. True courage is modeled for us in the Bible, but sadly, celebrated confessions reflect society’s superficial standard of virtue and character.

So we’d like you to join us in a linkup to define real courage. If you have a blog, write a post about a time you (or your spouse) were faced with a choice that took courage, and link your post back to the Stepping Up men’s blog. If you don’t have a blog, feel free to leave your definition of courage in the comments section of this post.

We want to help redefine courage in America today, so every blogger who participates in the Defining Courage Linkup will receive a copy of Dennis Rainey’s book Stepping Up, a Call to Courageous Manhood.  One lucky, randomly selected winner will receive a Stepping Up Event Kit. Posts must be linked by January 28 to be eligible for the giveaways.

Plan to participate in a Stepping Up Super Saturday event on February 2 where Dennis Rainey, Voddie Baucham, Bill Bennett, Matt Chandler, James MacDonald, Robert Lewis, Mark Driscoll, and others help you tackle some of the biggest issues facing men today.


How women can help awake ‘the sleeping giant’

Following is the transcript from a recent FamilyLife Today radio program with guest, Kenny Luck, Men’s Pastor at Saddleback Church.  This is the 2nd of 2 programs that aired with Kenny Luck as the guest.  Bob=Bob Lepine, CoHost; Kenny=Kenny Luck; Dennis=Dennis Rainey, Host  (Note this is a transcript and has not been edited so it might read a little strangely in some areas)

Air date: January 8, 2013

Kenny Luck

Bob: Have you heard women around you bashing their man? What do you do when that happens? Here’s advice from Kenny Luck.

Kenny: Those of you who have a good, strong, godly man instead of when you’re at tennis club, or the coffee shop, or connecting with the toddlers—jumping on the band wagon of man-bashing, as the failed brand, you can step in and say, “You know what? I don’t know what you’re talking about. My guy — he prays with my kids. He loves and cherishes me. He honors me.” You know what your friends will say? “You know, I have a sister. Does he have a brother?”

Bob: This is FamilyLife Today for Tuesday, January 8th. Our host is the president of FamilyLife®, Dennis Rainey, and I’m Bob Lepine. We’re going to talk today about men being men and about how women can help them be the men God wants them to be. Stay tuned.

And welcome to FamilyLife Today. Thanks for joining us on the Tuesday edition. I’m thinking ahead. It’s about three weeks — three-and-a-half weeks — before the Super Bowl. You know, on Super Bowl Sunday, on the day of the game, you can pretty much count on the fact that most guys are going to want to kind of have that time blocked out and they’re going to want to watch the game. They are not going to be available to do a whole lot of “Honey, do” stuff around the house that afternoon; right?

Dennis: That’s correct. That’s correct.

Bob: So, I’m thinking of a wife who is planning for that weekend. She’s got the option of either her husband, on Saturday, doing all the projects around the house so that he can watch the game on Sunday; or she can send him to the Stepping Up® Super Saturday event, down at the church, that’s happening in their community. We’ve got hundreds of churches that are participating in this; but she’s not going to get any “Honey, do” lists done that day. What would your counsel to her be, Dennis?

Dennis: Give up the “Honey, do” list for a day.

Bob: How did I know that was what you would suggest?

Dennis: Give it up! I’m not trying to be a guy who is abdicating responsibility. I’m actually—I’m actually encouraging you, as a wife, to look beyond the “Honey, do” list and beyond to making an investment in your husband’s life—to encourage him, not discourage him— but encourage him to become the man God made him to be. If you send him down to the Stepping Up Super Saturday event—I can’t guarantee this because he’s got a choice—he’s got a real choice, and some guys don’t make it; but a lot will. I’d encourage you to send him down here and find out more information. They can go to

Bob: And by the way, as I said, there are hundreds of churches participating in the Super Saturday event; but there is still an opportunity for a guy to say, “Our church isn’t doing this, but I’d like for our church to do it.” You can still sign up.

Dennis: Exactly, Bob. Don’t wait for your pastor to sign your church up. Maybe, as a man, you grab the baton and take it to your pastor and say, “Let’s do this thing! Let’s make this happen in our community.”

I’m looking across the table, and there’s a guy asking for the microphone and the soapbox. Kenny Luck joins us. He’s the Men’s Pastor at Saddleback Church. He’s written a book called Sleeping Giant. He’s all over the issue of men stepping up. You believe women are important if men are going to step up; don’t you?

Kenny: Oh, my goodness, Dennis! When you guys were talking about —

Dennis: You were having a hard time being quiet.

Kenny: I was just saying — the hall pass — “Ladies, here’s the deal. When you do give permission for a desired activity — but more importantly, when you encourage your man to take ownership of his life — spiritually, relationally, maritally — in the context of other men, that’s when you get a solid result versus hinting, hoping, nagging. It’s just something where he feels that he needs to make that decision on his own — in consideration of you — but in the presence of other men, as an individual man. It’s that ownership-thing, where it is: “This is my decision, and I want to own it — apart from being in your presence — even though I love you — and apart from being connected to you as a husband and father, who has many shortcomings — I want to make this decision myself.”

So, when you were talking about “Hey, let him go. Ladies, let him go! It will be so encouraging to him,” — that’s the first point.

Second point was, I think, when we talk about waking the sleeping giant — when we talk about getting guys in and healthy, and what that means for the women and children — not just in our country, but worldwide — I think that women are going to be the accelerator of that. My feedback — thousands of emails from men — tells me that, many times, when they make a strong step toward health and God — that is met with cynicism, skepticism, or just ambivalence — maybe because of the past — maybe because of failed promises —

Dennis: Right.

Kenny: — in the past. I think, once men feel and hear from their bride — their sisters-in-Christ — encouragement — and also, women-to-women — where instead of — as you’re at tennis, or the coffee shop, or connecting with the toddlers — jumping on the band wagon of man-bashing, as the failed brand. Those of you who have a good, strong, godly man, you can step in and say, “You know what? I don’t know what you’re talking about. My guy — he prays with my kids. He loves and cherishes me. He honors me.” You know what your friends will say? “Does he — I have a sister. Does he have a brother?” You know? That’s what women are looking for. So, ladies, I just want to encourage you to, as we talk about this movement of men — healthy men — we need your voice because when we talk about it, it kind of falls flat.

Bob: You talk about the fact that the men’s culture in America is a broken culture. Do you think it’s always been that way? Do you think it’s true in other cultures? I’m just wondering — I mean we live in a broken world. So, at some level, everything is broken. But has there ever been a time when you’ve looked back and say, “They understood masculinity, back there, or over here, … you know?

To listen to the entire broadcast, click How women can help awake ‘the sleeping giant’


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The World probably won’t end 12-21-12, but it could change drastically on 2-2-13

Stepping Up™ Super Saturday Event!

According to legend, based on the end of the Mayan calendar, the world is scheduled to end in 22 days.  Here are some headlines from

French officials ban access to sacred mountain which believers claim will be refuge from ‘Mayan apocalypse on December 21’

Rumours say the mountain will burst open on December 21 to reveal an alien spaceship which will save those nearby from the apocalypse

French police will control access to the mountain and village to stop expected hordes of New Age fanatics, sightseers and journalists

December 21 is the estimated end of the Mayan long calendar, which some believes marks the end of the world as we know it

Though anything is possible, given Jesus’ words the world will probably not end 12-21-12.

“But concerning that day and hour no one knows, not even the angels of heaven, nor the Son, but the Father only. 37 For as were the days of Noah, kso will be the coming of the Son of Man.” (Matthew 24:36-37, ESV)

So now that we have that settled, we do believe there is a day coming that may change men’s lives forever.  On the Saturday before the Super Bowl, Stepping Up™ is holding the biggest tailgate party in men’s ministries since the days of PromiseKeepers.  We expect that tens of thousands of men in more than a thousand settings (mostly churches) will simultaneously be hosting a Stepping Up launch event.

What’s a Stepping Up launch event, you ask?  We’re glad you asked.  Let us tell you.

Imagine if we could call every man to become courageous leaders in their own lives, marriages, churches, and communities.  That’s what the Stepping Up Super Saturday event is all about.

The Stepping Up Super Saturday event utilizes the Stepping Up Video Event, a DVD-based kit designed for an all day event. High quality DVDs deliver dramatic stories, humorous vignettes, man-on-the-street interviews, and expert teaching from the following ministry leaders:

Stepping Up™ Super Saturday event

On the website we’ve got all the information you will need to

Host the event.

Promote the event.

Register your event.  If you want to sign up to attend an event near you, you will register with that church, organization, individual who will tell you how to do that for that particular event in your are)

So what about you?  Will you be a catalyst for changing men’s destiny?  What if men all over your community attended this one day event?  And what if after the event, you and others held a 10-week Stepping Up Men’s Study (find out about the extended study here).  What might your community, church and family look like if men took up the gauntlet to step up and become the men God has always intended they become?  Powerful image isn’t it.  Now you can turn the image into reality.  Let’s be like the men of Issachar, “Of Issachar, men who had understanding of the times, to know what Israel ought to do” (1 Chronicles 12:32), men who see the need for men to lead their families, churches, communities, nation with godly strength and resolve.

See you (figuratively) on 2-2-13!

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