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When does a boy become a man?

As part of the Stepping Up video series, we asked people passing by on the street different questions around the topic of manhood.  In this clip, we asked them, “When do you think a boy becomes a man?” There were some interesting responses; many had difficulty answering the question.

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So, when does a boy become a man?  The Apostle Paul gives us a hint:

When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.
1 Corinthians 13:11

It’s interesting that this verse follows a very famous and oft-quoted passage of Scripture at weddings … the “love chapter” of 1 Corinthians 13.  I have been at many marriage ceremonies where this passage was read but never one where they read this verse (which follows directly after the “love is” verses).  Maybe if more marriage ceremonies included this verse there might be more attention drawn to becoming a man and turning away from childish things.

We don’t do “rite of passage” ceremonies very well in our culture.  Typically it’s assumed that by passing certain age milestones or some of the major events in our lives, we “automagically” move into manhood.  Yet, as one woman said on the video (and correctly so), “There are some who are men at 15 and others who are still children at 40.”

Helping your boy become a man

If you are wanting to know how to help your son become a man, there are some good resources available to help you. FamilyLife has the Passport2Purity resource that allows you to have a discussion with your son about significant issues he’ll face as an adolescent that will move him to manhood.  Here are some other resources for you to check out:

If you are aware of any others that are biblically based and have made an impact on you or someone you know, share them here.

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  1. Ken cGhee's Gravatar Ken cGhee
    September 28, 2012    

    Attempting to view video. Large blank space comes up where video should be. Unable to view video.

    • MenSteppingUp's Gravatar MenSteppingUp
      September 28, 2012    

      What browser are you trying to view it on? I had some trouble with Firefox for some reason but it came up fine in Safari and Google Chrome.

      • Ken McGhee's Gravatar Ken McGhee
        September 28, 2012    

        Bullseye. I was using Firefox so, to provide variety, I tried MS Internet Explorer and it worked. It did give me an error message at the end, “Your last browsing session closed unexpectedly.” Wonder if that is a clue??

        • MenSteppingUp's Gravatar MenSteppingUp
          September 28, 2012    

          Glad you got it to work.

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